Re-entering the dating world after age 40 doesn’t have to be met with apprehension. With the right attitude and circumstances, it can be a very enjoyable and exciting opportunity! And why not?! You’re probably more financially secure, wiser and more experienced. You have a better feel for what you want and don’t want in a relationship. You’ve probably been able to realize some of your dreams. And whatever you haven’t yet done that you’d like to try, you probably now have the financial means to experience it. And if you have recently re-entered the dating scene after a long hiatus, you will be pleasantly surprised to find that men and women's attitudes have changed significantly since you last dated.
Most people in their 40’s, and particularly their 50’s and 60’s, are looking for a permanent relationship. They have discovered that they really would like a companion to share life with. To attract and retain that companion, they are generally more willing to do it what it takes to make a relationship work.
Most of our clients over 40 tend to be looking for a committed relationship. In addition, because they tend to get into routines, they want ease and convenience and don’t like going out on limb. Most importantly, they don’t want to be obvious that they’re looking. People find our service attractive because we provide structure, ease, convenience, and privacy (so that the whole world doesn’t know your looking!).
Don’t try to find someone your age hanging around in a bar – at this age, if they are still hanging around a bar, they’ve been hanging there too long. Church events, fund raisers, and volunteer work are great places to meet people – meeting people in those venues generally does not involve gamesmanship, and they will be more likely to have values and interests comparable to your own.
Be willing to assert yourself. Be willing to take some action, make a little more time, or take a small step out of your comfort zone.
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