Aside from the obvious things like personal hygiene, below are some things to keep in mind when dating...
1- Being too easy to please
The truth is that women love compliments. We adore being told we’re hot, irresistible and look sexy in our new black minidress. But throw out too many niceties too early on, laugh at all of our jokes (even when we both know they’re not funny), and always want to do what we want to do, and we’ll begin to think you’re being insincere. We’ll also think that you’re only trying to achieve one thing: to get into our pants. While that probably is your endgame, coming off like you have no opinion or spine instantly turns you into one of two things: the too-nice guy or the desperate creep -- and no woman wants to date either. Instead, make us work for our compliments. We love a challenge just as much as a man does, and compliments go so much further when we feel we’ve actually earned them.
2- Being too focused on sex
We know you have an endgame with us. In fact, we’d be mightily insulted if you didn’t want to sleep with us after the first date! However, if you rush us or push us into a sex guilt-trip, we’re not going to put out; instead, we're going to start wondering whether you like us for our personality or for our breasts. If you really like a girl and are interested in forming a long-lasting relationship with her, hold off on the pressure. She’ll let you know when she’s ready -- and it will probably be sooner than you think. Oh, and once you’ve had sex with her, all bets are not off. Calling your new date at 2:00 a.m. after a big boozy night out with your buddies when she has an early start the next day for her 6:00 a.m. Pilates session is not a good way to act at the beginning of a relationship. In fact, you can bet your box of condoms that if you continue to do so, she’s going to bitch to her girlfriends about you and then think of the best excuse to let you down gently. If this girl is serious about you, then she’ll want a proper boyfriend, not a Friday night casual sex buddy. Booty calling her shows you’re not serious about her and that you view her as a slut -- and no girl wants to think of herself as being treated that way.
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